Class 81 of “The Ramp” to the Highway of Success course for young men

Welcome to Class 81 of “The Ramp” to the Highway of Success course for young men. I am Daniel Whyte III, chairman of the National Association to Save Young Black Men in partnership with the Martin Luther King Senior Institute for Young Men & Young Women. The Institute aims to honor the legacy of Martin Luther King Sr., commonly referred to as “Daddy King”, whom God used to raise the great leader, Martin Luther King Jr. Our purpose is to guide young men and young women, and help them get on the path to becoming kings and queens for the glory of God.

I am your instructor for this course and the author of the ESSENCE national bestselling book “Letters to Young Black Men”. We are using that book as the text and its study guide to guide you through the course. The study guide was developed with the help of Jamie McCallum (M.Div, Truett Theological Seminary), Charles Garrett (M.Div, Southwestern Theological Seminary), and now my youngest son Danyel Ezekiel Whyte who is in his third year of college. This course is for all young men, but especially for young black men and young men of color who oftentimes have a “difficult journey” in this great country called America. I call this class “the Ramp” to the Highway of Success because my goal is to get you on “the Ramp”. As a man, you ought to be able to make it from there. Out of respect for you as a young man, my job is to get you on the ramp and point you in the right direction, not to tell you all the details once you get onto the highway of success. With God, you can do great things.

— Let’s Pray —

This lesson is titled “On Your Relationship With Your Wife or Wife-to-Be, Part 1.”

Someone once said, “When a man marries a woman, they become one—the trouble comes when they decide which one.”

Someone once said, “Hen-pecked husbands soon learn that he who hesitates is bossed.”

Dear Y.B.M.:

May I encourage you to get married. Contrary to what many think, marriage can and should be a joy and a pleasure, not a pain and a burden. Do not judge marriage based on what you have seen of other people’s marriages—even your parents or grandparents. Let me share some things with you on why you ought to get married.

First, you ought to get married because in this life it is good to have someone special to help you and encourage you along the way. A good wife can be that special someone and thus can become your best friend. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 states: “Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.”

Second, you ought to get married to avoid the sin of fornication, which is sex before marriage. Don’t let anyone fool you, whenever you sin, you hurt others indeed, but you hurt yourself more. Sin is a bad thing! “Sin blinds, sin grinds, sin binds”, and don’t you forget that. First Corinthians 6:18 tells us to: “Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.”

Third, you ought to get married so that you can be a husband and guide to a young black sister. Notice I said “young black sister”. Now, I am not a racist by any stretch of the imagination. I have white people in my family. I love them just as much as I love my other family members. We also have white people working in our organization, and we all get along quite well. Now, dear brother, you have a right to marry who ever you wish, but may I strongly encourage you to marry a good black woman for these reasons:

a. You will help your race

b. You will eliminate the added pressure that comes with being in a mixed marriage.

Contrary to what others may be telling you, or what you may have heard others say, you can find a good black woman if you pray one in.

Fourth, you ought to marry to have children that you can raise up to serve the Lord in this present age.

Fifth, society in general, looks askance at a young man past the age of twenty-five who does not have a girlfriend or some woman on his arms, or who shows no signs of getting married, or no interest in marriage. People begin to wonder: Is he gay? Does he have homosexual tendencies?

Marriage can be and should be fun, and if you do it the right way, that is, God’s way, it will be fun.

Let’s Pray.

In closing, Tony Dungy, the first black coach to win the Super Bowl and the host of NBC’s Sunday Night Football said, “You are never going to get anywhere in sports or in life until you become convinced of the truth of the gospel of Jesus Christ. You may become a professional athlete or have fame and nice cars and nice houses and a lot of money, but what you’ll find is that all of that stuff goes away pretty quickly. You have to understand that Christ died for our sins, and that He died not just to be our Savior but so that He could be the center of our lives.”

Now, like many of you, I grew up in a very religious and church-going family, and during that time, I often heard the phrase “Being Saved.” Now, much of what the church people I grew up around said “being saved” was back then especially, in my community, is wrong according to the Bible. I wrote an article about it titled “On ‘Being Saved’ in Black America” which is available for you to read free of charge on our website, Right now, I want to share with you very briefly what the Bible says “being saved” really is.

First, understand that you need to be saved because you are a sinner. Romans 3:23 says, “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.”

Second, understand that a horrible punishment — eternal Hell — awaits those who are not saved. In Matthew 25:41, Jesus Christ said that God will say to those who are not saved, “depart from me ye cursed into everlasting fire prepared for the devil and his angels.”

Third, realize that God loves you very much and wants to save you from Hell. John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”

If you want to be saved from Hell and be guaranteed a home in Heaven, simply believe in Jesus Christ, that He died, was buried, and rose from the dead for your sins, and then call upon Him in prayer and ask Him to save your soul. And believe me, He will.

Romans 10:9-13 says, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” That is the most important decision you will ever make.

If the Lord tarries His Coming and we live, I’ll see you for our next class.

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