Welcome to Class 78 of “The Ramp” to the Highway of Success course for young women. I am Daniel Whyte III, president of Gospel Light Society, working in partnership with the Martin Luther King Senior Institute for Young Men & Young Women. The Institute aims to honor the legacy of Martin Luther King Sr., commonly referred to as “Daddy King”, whom God used to raise the great leader, Martin Luther King Jr. Our purpose is to guide young men and young women, and help them get on the path to becoming kings and queens for the glory of God.
I am your instructor for this course and the author of the ESSENCE Magazine bestselling book “Letters to Young Black Men” and the national bestselling book “Letters to Young Black Women.” My wife, Meriqua Whyte, and my eldest daughter, Daniella Whyte, co-authored “Letters to Young Black Women” with me. My daughter (who has two bachelor’s degrees in psychology and religion and a master’s degree in human services counseling—executive leadership and a second master’s degree in developmental psychology) and her mother, developed the Study Guide. We are using Letters to Young Black Women and its study guide to guide you through this course. This course is for all young women, but especially for young black women and young women of color who oftentimes face disadvantages that others do not. The goal of this class is to help you operate from a position of strength and power based upon the Word of God so you can be victorious in life. My prayer is that this class will empower you to win against your enemies: the devil, sorry men, and even yourself.
Today, we will continue our study, “ON NOT BEING A SILLY-MINDED WOMAN” (Letter Twenty-Four).
— First, Let’s Pray —
Allow me to begin with a quote from Suze Orman. She said: “A wise woman recognizes when her life is out of balance and summons the courage to act to correct it, she knows the meaning of true generosity, happiness is the reward for a life lived in harmony, with a courage and grace.”
Now, please pull out your text and your digital study guide or follow along on the screen. First, I will read a portion of the corresponding letter from the book, Letters to Young Black Women. Then we will proceed with this lesson:
Here’s how you can avoid being a silly-minded woman, and be a strongminded, virtuous woman instead:
First, be a woman of prayer. Pray about every little thing. The woman who prays allows God to direct her life. “In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths” (Proverbs 3:6). Praying throughout the day will help you to be sober-minded and vigilant at all times. “Pray without ceasing” (I Thessalonians 5:17).
Second, read and meditate on God’s Word. Allow God’s Word to speak to your heart and mind, and to guide you throughout the day. Also, let the Word of God remind you of your duties as a Christian.
Third, go through each day with a purpose. Each day you need to know what God wants you to do. Make sure that everything you do is centered around the purpose that God has for you in your life. Even taking time for a little rest and relaxation is a part of God’s purpose for your life.
Fourth, you must think for yourself. If the Holy Spirit and your conscience tells you that something is wrong, then it is wrong. Don’t be swayed by every wind of doctrine that enters the world. Don’t allow yourself to be blown away by every man who comes your way, and make sure that all of your decisions are based on the Holy Spirit’s guidance and the eternal Word of God.
Fifth, stay busy. Keep moving. Once you finish one task or goal, have another one ready to do. You know the old saying, “An idle mind is the devil’s playground.” Just because it is an old saying does not mean it is not true. Wherever you go, always have something with you on which to work. If you don’t want every Tom, Dick, and Harry trying to talk with you throughout the day, you must be a woman who looks like she is on the go, like she is on a mission, like she has things to do, people to see, and places to go. The strong-minded woman — the virtuous woman — is industrious. Notice what the Bible says about the virtuous woman in Proverbs 31:13: “She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.”
Sixth, be a woman who cares for other people, and who tries to meet the needs of suffering humanity. Having a caring heart for other people will keep you busy all by itself. The Bible says of the virtuous woman: “She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy” (Proverbs 31:20).
Seventh, keep your mind occupied with positive things. The Bible says in Philippians 4:8: “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”
As difficult as it may be to face the truth, stop and ask yourself the following questions to help in your analysis determining whether you are a woman whose life is characterized by silliness and foolishness or by God’s wisdom and His word:
Do you know your purpose in life? If so, are you walking in it? Have you been in communion with God long enough for Him to reveal at least an inkling of His purpose for your life to you?
Do you know what your passion is and what your interests are – that one thing or several things that you enjoy to the fullest in life? How are you maximizing your passion and interests?
Do you know what your gifts are? If so, are you being a good steward of the gifts God has given you by using them to the best of your ability to be a blessing to others or are you squandering them trying to be something you’re not or being nothing at all?
Do you have clarity in your life? Do you know your “why”? Do you have goals, and if so, are you pursuing them and achieving them or are putting them off and just dreaming but never realizing?
Are you organized or disorganized? Is your house and car a mess causing you to waste time by having to look for important things when issues arise? Are you constantly blindsided by avoidable problems, rendering your life a mess?
In the next class, we will continue our study, “ON NOT BEING A SILLY-MINDED WOMAN.”
Now, like many of you, I grew up in a very religious and church-going family, and during that time, I often heard the phrase “Being Saved.” Now, much of what church people said “being saved” was back then especially, in my community, is wrong according to the Bible. I wrote an article about it titled “On ‘Being Saved’ in Black America” which is available for you to read free of charge on our website, gospellightsociety.com. Right now, I want to share with you very briefly what the Bible says “being saved” really is.
First, understand that you need to be saved because you are a sinner. Romans 3:23 says, “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.”
Second, understand that a horrible punishment — eternal Hell — awaits those who are not saved. In Matthew 25:41, Jesus Christ said that God will say to those who are not saved, “depart from me ye cursed into everlasting fire prepared for the devil and his angels.”
Third, realize that God loves you very much and wants to save you from Hell. John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” If you want to be saved from Hell and be guaranteed a home in Heaven, simply believe in Jesus Christ, that He died, was buried, and rose from the dead for your sins, and then call upon Him in prayer and ask Him to save your soul. And believe me, He will.
Romans 10:9-13 says, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” That is the most important decision you will ever make.
God bless you and keep you until we meet for our next class.