Welcome to Class 79 of “The Ramp” to the Highway of Success course for young women. I am Daniel Whyte III, president of Gospel Light Society, working in partnership with the Martin Luther King Senior Institute for Young Men & Young Women. The Institute aims to honor the legacy of Martin Luther King Sr., commonly referred to as “Daddy King”, whom God used to raise the great leader, Martin Luther King Jr. Our purpose is to guide young men and young women, and help them get on the path to becoming kings and queens for the glory of God.
I am your instructor for this course and the author of the ESSENCE Magazine bestselling book “Letters to Young Black Men” and the national bestselling book “Letters to Young Black Women.” My wife, Meriqua Whyte, and my eldest daughter, Daniella Whyte, co-authored “Letters to Young Black Women” with me. My daughter (who has two bachelor’s degrees in psychology and religion and a master’s degree in human services counseling—executive leadership and a second master’s degree in developmental psychology) and her mother, developed the Study Guide. We are using Letters to Young Black Women and its study guide to guide you through this course. This course is for all young women, but especially for young black women and young women of color who oftentimes face disadvantages that others do not. The goal of this class is to help you operate from a position of strength and power based upon the Word of God so you can be victorious in life. My prayer is that this class will empower you to win against your enemies: the devil, sorry men, and even yourself.
Today, we will continue our study, “ON NOT BEING A SILLY-MINDED WOMAN” (Letter Twenty-Four).
— First, Let’s Pray —
Allow me to begin with a quote from Lysa TerKeurst. She said: “Wise women tuck Godly wisdom into the words they speak and even more into the words they choose not to speak.”
Now, please pull out your text and your digital study guide or follow along on the screen. First, I will read a portion of the corresponding letter from the book, Letters to Young Black Women. Then we will proceed with this lesson:
In closing, I should mention the benefits of being a strong, toughminded woman, for they are numerous:
1. You can laugh at the devil because he can’t touch you.
2. You can laugh at dawggish men who mean you no good. No man will be able to tell his buddies that he had you, and that you ain’t about nothing.
3. You can get many wonderful things accomplished with your life before the age of twenty-four: things like getting your doctorate degree, starting a business, writing your first novel or non-fiction book, buying your first house, buying the car of your dreams, reading all of the classics, and the list could go on and on.
4. You can be a blessing to your parents instead of a burden.
5. You can save a whole lot of time and money.
6. You can travel around the world on missionary trips.
7. Along with your other degree, you can get a seminary degree to serve more effectively in your church.
8. You will never get hurt romantically by getting tied up with a man who God did not choose to be your husband in the first place. As you know, this can take up to three years, and sometimes even a lifetime to get over. What a colossal waste of valuable time.
9. You can avoid many aggravating day-to-day problems and troubles by being organized and having all your paperwork in order, including proof of insurance.
10. You can avoid the devastating consequences of lying. Sister, if people cannot trust you and your word, your life is doomed. The sad thing about it is that you won’t even know it because your employers and so-called friends won’t have the guts to check you on your lying. They will just silently take note of it, tell others about it, and never trust you again.
6. Along with goals, do you have a plan to reach those goals as well as a plan for day-to-day life? As one popular quote states, “The dream is free but the hustle is sold separately.” Do you keep lists of what you have accomplished and of what you need to accomplish to move forward in life? Or do you wake up only to go through each precious day directionless and end each day empty-handed?
7. Do you seek out and heed godly advice and sound counsel from people who are older, more knowledgeable and more successful than you according to scriptural standards? Do you surround yourself with these types of people and actually listen to what they have to say or are you always the loudest in the room, your ears blocked to anyone outside of yourself? Proverbs 11:14 says, “Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety.” Above all, do you ask the Lord for wisdom or are you determined to do it your own way and make a mess of things?
8. Are you a liar? Have you complicated your life with drama and scandal due to deceit and manipulation or are you free from bondage in Christ living an upright life?
9. How is your mind and your mental state? Are you empty-headed, constantly feeding on social media gossip, trashy music, mystic self-help books and pointless tv shows? Or is your mind ever expanding, being filled with beneficial knowledge and other forms of positive content, bearing thoughts that are good and beautiful (Philippians 4:8)? How much of your mind is filled with meditations on scripture? Are you winning the battle of your mind by “bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ” (2 Corinthians 10:5)?
10. Are you building up or tearing down your family and friends with your words and deeds? Denzel Washington said, “a wise woman knows the importance of speaking life into her man. If you love him: believe in him, encourage him and be his peace.” Even if you are not married, do those who spend the most time around you feel uplifted or low when they leave your presence?
Young ladies, time is precious. It is our most valuable commodity. You never know how much of it you have left and once it is gone it cannot be regained. Just like your mind, time is a powerful thing to waste. If you do not use it and fill it as you should, you will come to the end of your life full of regrets. Let me challenge you to adopt President Theodore Roosevelt’s approach to life: “Get action;” he stated, “do things; be sane [not silly-minded]; don’t fritter away your time; create; act; take a place wherever you are and be somebody; get action.”
In the next class, we will continue our study, “ON NOT BEING A SILLY-MINDED WOMAN.”
Now, like many of you, I grew up in a very religious and church-going family, and during that time, I often heard the phrase “Being Saved.” Now, much of what church people said “being saved” was back then especially, in my community, is wrong according to the Bible. I wrote an article about it titled “On ‘Being Saved’ in Black America” which is available for you to read free of charge on our website, gospellightsociety.com. Right now, I want to share with you very briefly what the Bible says “being saved” really is.
First, understand that you need to be saved because you are a sinner. Romans 3:23 says, “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.”
Second, understand that a horrible punishment — eternal Hell — awaits those who are not saved. In Matthew 25:41, Jesus Christ said that God will say to those who are not saved, “depart from me ye cursed into everlasting fire prepared for the devil and his angels.”
Third, realize that God loves you very much and wants to save you from Hell. John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” If you want to be saved from Hell and be guaranteed a home in Heaven, simply believe in Jesus Christ, that He died, was buried, and rose from the dead for your sins, and then call upon Him in prayer and ask Him to save your soul. And believe me, He will.
Romans 10:9-13 says, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” That is the most important decision you will ever make.
God bless you and keep you until we meet for our next class.