Welcome to Class 90 of “The Ramp” to the Highway of Success course for young men. I am Daniel Whyte III, chairman of the National Association to Save Young Black Men in partnership with the Martin Luther King Senior Institute for Young Men & Young Women. The Institute aims to honor the legacy of Martin Luther King Sr., commonly referred to as “Daddy King”, whom God used to raise the great leader, Martin Luther King Jr. Our purpose is to guide young men and young women, and help them get on the path to becoming kings and queens for the glory of God.
I am your instructor for this course and the author of the ESSENCE national bestselling book “Letters to Young Black Men”. We are using that book as the text and its study guide to guide you through the course. The study guide was developed with the help of Jamie McCallum (M.Div, Truett Theological Seminary), Charles Garrett (M.Div, Southwestern Theological Seminary), and now my youngest son Danyel Ezekiel Whyte who is in his third year of college. This course is for all young men, but especially for young black men and young men of color who oftentimes have a “difficult journey” in this great country called America. I call this class “the Ramp” to the Highway of Success because my goal is to get you on “the Ramp”. As a man, you ought to be able to make it from there. Out of respect for you as a young man, my job is to get you on the ramp and point you in the right direction, not to tell you all the details once you get onto the highway of success. With God, you can do great things.
— Let’s Pray —
This lesson is titled “On Your Relationship With Your Sons, Part 2”
4. Teach him biblical principles, and give him wise counsel regarding life. The best thing I have ever done with my sons, and all of my children, for that matter, is to read the Bible all the way through with them, and teach them the principles therein. I strongly encourage you to do the same. Basically, all you have to do is read three chapters a day. Try it. It will change your life and his life as well. But, don’t just read the Scriptures — do the Scriptures. Obey the Scriptures yourself and be a great example to your sons. The Bible says: “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6).
5. Work it out so he gets the best education possible. My wife and I felt the best way to raise our children was to homeschool them. We have homeschooled all seven of our children since birth. You may have chosen another route, but whatever you do, give your son and daughter the best possible education that you can. This will bode well for them and for you throughout their lifetime.
6. Play with him. While growing up, I played quarterback on one of my high school football teams. When my sons and I go exercising, we always take a football. They play as my receivers. We have a lot of fun together. I share with my sons this life principle: work hard and then play hard.
7. Be genuinely interested in what he does and what he is interested in. Help him develop his gifts. Find out what your son is good at and encourage him to become the best he can be.
8. Praise him for his good accomplishments, and encourage him where he may be failing. All of us know the value and power of praise. I use it lavishly on my sons when they do well. But, I also rebuke them and chastise them when I know they are not doing their best.
9. Chastise him swiftly and firmly. Teach him one of the most important lessons of life, and that is, the lesson of obedience. I cannot emphasize this enough: love your sons, so much so, that you will chastise them when they are disobedient. The Bible says to: “Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying” (Proverbs 19:18).
In closing, Tony Dungy, the first black coach to win the Super Bowl and the host of NBC’s Sunday Night Football said, “You are never going to get anywhere in sports or in life until you become convinced of the truth of the gospel of Jesus Christ. You may become a professional athlete or have fame and nice cars and nice houses and a lot of money, but what you’ll find is that all of that stuff goes away pretty quickly. You have to understand that Christ died for our sins, and that He died not just to be our Savior but so that He could be the center of our lives.”
Now, like many of you, I grew up in a very religious and church-going family, and during that time, I often heard the phrase “Being Saved.” Now, much of what the church people I grew up around said “being saved” was back then especially, in my community, is wrong according to the Bible. I wrote an article about it titled “On ‘Being Saved’ in Black America” which is available for you to read free of charge on our website, gospellightsociety.com. Right now, I want to share with you very briefly what the Bible says “being saved” really is.
First, understand that you need to be saved because you are a sinner. Romans 3:23 says, “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.”
Second, understand that a horrible punishment — eternal Hell — awaits those who are not saved. In Matthew 25:41, Jesus Christ said that God will say to those who are not saved, “depart from me ye cursed into everlasting fire prepared for the devil and his angels.”
Third, realize that God loves you very much and wants to save you from Hell. John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”
If you want to be saved from Hell and be guaranteed a home in Heaven, simply believe in Jesus Christ, that He died, was buried, and rose from the dead for your sins, and then call upon Him in prayer and ask Him to save your soul. And believe me, He will.
Romans 10:9-13 says, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” That is the most important decision you will ever make.
If the Lord tarries His Coming and we live, I’ll see you for our next class.