Class 83 of “The Ramp” to the Highway of Success course for young women

Welcome to Class 83 of “The Ramp” to the Highway of Success course for young women. I am Daniel Whyte III, president of Gospel Light Society, working in partnership with the Martin Luther King Senior Institute for Young Men & Young Women. The Institute aims to honor the legacy of Martin Luther King Sr., commonly referred to as “Daddy King”, whom God used to raise the great leader, Martin Luther King Jr. Our purpose is to guide young men and young women, and help them get on the path to becoming kings and queens for the glory of God.

I am your instructor for this course and the author of the ESSENCE Magazine bestselling book “Letters to Young Black Men” and the national bestselling book “Letters to Young Black Women.” My wife, Meriqua Whyte, and my eldest daughter, Daniella Whyte, co-authored “Letters to Young Black Women” with me. My daughter (who has two bachelor’s degrees in psychology and religion and a master’s degree in human services counseling—executive leadership and a second master’s degree in developmental psychology) and her mother, developed the Study Guide. We are using Letters to Young Black Women and its study guide to guide you through this course. This course is for all young women, but especially for young black women and young women of color who oftentimes face disadvantages that others do not. The goal of this class is to help you operate from a position of strength and power based upon the Word of God so you can be victorious in life. My prayer is that this class will empower you to win against your enemies: the devil, sorry men, and even yourself.

Today, we will begin our study, “NOT GIVING IN: MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE by Joslyn Neblett” (Letter Twenty-Six).

— First, Let’s Pray —

Allow me to begin with a quote from Richard and Sharon Phillips. They said: “In the right setting – that is marriage – sex is a wonderful gift from God. Sex is given for our good. But God gave sex to be the servant of love and never the slave of lust. God intends for love to express itself in the commitment of marriage, and only then for intimacy to unite us in the joys of sexual love. …In today’s society, intimacy means practically nothing more than having sex. Couples meet and immediately begin enjoying sexual intercourse, committing either to immoral hedonism or to the idea that sex will serve as the foundation for love. This goes a long way toward explaining why so many marriages, built on no stronger foundation than sexual thrills, end in divorce soon after the flames of passion have died down.”

Now, please pull out your text and your digital study guide or follow along on the screen. First, I will read a portion of the corresponding letter from the book, Letters to Young Black Women. Then we will proceed with this lesson:

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Dear Daughters and YBW:

I trust that you are growing in the Lord.

Today, I am going to let a remarkable young lady, by the name of Joslyn Neblett share her heart with you about standing for what is right when everybody and everything is telling you to do wrong. Joslyn Neblett works on staff at a university, in the Student Life Department. She has a Bachelor’s degree and is pursuing her Master’s degree. I chose Joslyn Neblett to write this letter in my book because after meeting her, I realized that I had never met a young lady who exemplifies the spirit of Christ more than Joslyn Neblett. I know that she will be a blessing to you. Please read what she has to share with you. Take it away Joslyn and God bless you.

Dear YBW:

Nowadays, too many young black women are finding themselves contemplating or participating in the act of pre-marital sex. Think twice before permitting your emotions to arouse your actions. In spite of your unconsciousness, this will result in your avoiding a mistake of a lifetime.

To be honest, for many men taking a woman’s virginity and leaving her heartbroken is just a game of cat and mouse. Some women have learned this the hard way. Do not allow yourself to be placed in this situation because you will become bitter and remorseful. Your virginity is sacred; it’s also something that you can never get back. Guard it as if your life depended on it. Below I would like to share with you my first encounter. Although personal, I feel compelled to share this with you in hopes that this will help you do the smart and wise thing, and to keep your virginity.

My mother had me out of wedlock and at an early age. I was determined to break this generational curse. Being that I was the oldest of six children, this is one of many curses that skipped me. God and I made a pact that I would wait until I got married, something that I prayed about to Him quite often.

I got involved with a young man who I felt was Mr. Right. Of course, he turned out not to be that at all. Our relationship was great, at least until he got that itch—you know…sex. (This is the part in a relationship in which a man will show you his true colors.) He tried to persuade me to take it to the next level. In fact, one night at dinner amongst our friends and one of my relatives, I became the subject of our conversation. He relayed to my cousin that I was afraid. I explained, “It wasn’t that I was afraid. I knew what I had been taught and I did not want to mess up my life. I knew the risks involved.” Well, she tried to persuade me to go ahead and give in. I didn’t feel comfortable about this at all, so I stood my ground. He called himself teaching me a lesson, I suppose, because after dinner he had my best friend’s boyfriend to take him home. I went over to his house to talk shortly afterwards. Although I did not express it to anyone, I had a slight change of heart. Still not comfortable with the idea of giving myself to him, I began praying. Upon arriving at his house, I saw another female present.

The situation was very awkward and I was quite suspicious. Despite the fact that he was in his boxers, he conveyed to me that nothing happened and that he was about to go to bed when she stopped by. Besides, she was pregnant and was supposedly looking for her boyfriend, who was a friend of his. I had mixed emotions—excited that God saved me from making a horrible mistake in the following two ways: (1) this young lady being over to his house; and (2) my menstrual cycle began, which was very off schedule. I saw both as being signs of God’s intervention. Although heart-broken, there was still this small amount of joy I had on the inside.

This young man and I parted ways. Our paths crossed one year later. He apologized for hurting me, but still insisted nothing happened. I forgave him. He also commended me on being such a strong woman, taking a stand for what I knew to be right. He suggested that we should try being more than friends, but I declined. Even though we lost touch we remain friends today.

There is nothing like your self-respect. Ladies, when you respect yourself you must demand others to do the same. Never let anyone encourage you to do something that you’re not comfortable doing. If your significant other truly cares for you, then he will respect your wishes. And if he chooses not to wait, then you know that he is not the man that God has for you.

In addition, strengthen your relationship with God. If you do not already have a relationship with God, then consider doing so, because even when you are not thinking rationally, He’s always sane.

With love,
Joslyn
P.T. (Power Thoughts):

“Being virtuous is no feat once temptation ceases.” —Arnold Glasow

BIBLE GEM: “Commit thy way unto the LORD; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.” —Psalm 37:5

TALK TO GOD: Holy Father, I pray that you would give me the grace to not give in to the pressures that the world may try to put on me. Help me to stay pure and to love You with all my heart. In Jesus’ precious name. Amen

BOOK: The Best Sex of My Life, by Lindsay Marsh

CHECK IT OUT: http://www.iamworththewait.com

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Young ladies, let Mrs. Joslyn Neblett’s personal testimony encourage you to be honest with yourself and with the Lord about any compromising situations you have been in with your boyfriend, etc. Thank the Lord for any protection He gave you in spite of the bad decision(s) you may have made and then make a personal commitment not to lead yourself into temptation by putting yourself in sexually compromising situations again.

Let’s return to Richard and Sharon Phillips’ book, Holding Hands and Holding Hearts. They write: “One of the reasons why so many fall into sexual sin – bringing guilt into the relationship and short-circuiting its emotional and spiritual growth – is that they place themselves in tempting situations. This is simply foolish, and Christian men and women who are realistic about sexual temptation will not put themselves in a position to fall. …Sexual sin will damage and often ruin a promising relationship. It stops the development of emotional, intellectual, and spiritual intimacy. …A Christian man who takes the lead in sexual purity, and who tells the woman that her heart means more to him than her body, and her purity is more valuable to him than his own pleasure, liberates her from a cruel bondage and gives her a blessing that words can hardly describe.”

Furthermore, consider the following from Sam Storms of Enjoying God Ministries: “Premarital sex defrauds the future marriage partner of the person with whom you are involved. You are robbing that person of the virginity and single-minded intimacy that ought to be brought into a marriage. Thus, sexual impurity is as much a social injustice against others as it is a personal sin against God. …Most of us hear the word ‘will’ and instinctively envision a celestial frown. The phrase ‘will of God’ often conjures up the mental impression of an inflexible and colorless lawgiver whose sole concern is for his own reputation. But when I hear Paul speak of God’s ‘will’ for human sexuality I think of his heart’s desire, his yearning, his fatherly passion for our maximum enjoyment of one of his most precious gifts. I hear God saying, ‘This is what I long for you to experience as a sexual being. I made you. I put those sexual impulses in your spirit and in your body. I created hormones. Trust me when I say that I know far better than you what will bring the greatest joy and optimum pleasure.’ The point is simply that God’s ‘will’ for you and me is always an expression of his love.”

1 John 5:3-4 states, “For this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments: and his commandments are not grievous. For whatsoever is born of God overcometh the world: and this is the victory that overcometh the world, even our faith.” As a child of God, a daughter of the King above all kings who has a place reserved for her in Heaven, you have great power to be victorious in this area of your life by overcoming worldly ideology, instead resisting the temptation to stir up sexual arousal and succumb to sexual intercourse outside the bonds of marriage. Why should you spend the rest of your life bearing the weight of guilt and shame having cheated yourself, the future marriage partner of the person you may be with now, and your future marriage partner of God’s best for you all? Remember, “His commandments are not grievous.” They are given for our good. If you truly desire to be married one day, pray and trust God for a male partner who insists upon sexual purity while dating, and one who values your heart, mind and soul more than your hips, tips and lips and your purity more than his own pleasure. Also, be sure to carry yourself in a godly fashion that will aid in attracting this type of man. If you do not truly yearn for marriage, then plan for a life devoted to sexual purity out of honor for God.

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In the next class, we will begin our study, “IF YOU DESIRE TO GET MARRIED, HERE IS HOW TO GET A GOOD MAN”

—LET’S PRAY—

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Now, like many of you, I grew up in a very religious and church-going family, and during that time, I often heard the phrase “Being Saved.” Now, much of what church people said “being saved” was back then especially, in my community, is wrong according to the Bible. I wrote an article about it titled “On ‘Being Saved’ in Black America” which is available for you to read free of charge on our website, gospellightsociety.com. Right now, I want to share with you very briefly what the Bible says “being saved” really is.

First, understand that you need to be saved because you are a sinner. Romans 3:23 says, “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.”

Second, understand that a horrible punishment — eternal Hell — awaits those who are not saved. In Matthew 25:41, Jesus Christ said that God will say to those who are not saved, “depart from me ye cursed into everlasting fire prepared for the devil and his angels.”

Third, realize that God loves you very much and wants to save you from Hell. John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” If you want to be saved from Hell and be guaranteed a home in Heaven, simply believe in Jesus Christ, that He died, was buried, and rose from the dead for your sins, and then call upon Him in prayer and ask Him to save your soul. And believe me, He will.

Romans 10:9-13 says, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” That is the most important decision you will ever make.

God bless you and keep you until we meet for our next class.

Class 82 of “The Ramp” to the Highway of Success course for young women

Welcome to Class 82 of “The Ramp” to the Highway of Success course for young women. I am Daniel Whyte III, president of Gospel Light Society, working in partnership with the Martin Luther King Senior Institute for Young Men & Young Women. The Institute aims to honor the legacy of Martin Luther King Sr., commonly referred to as “Daddy King”, whom God used to raise the great leader, Martin Luther King Jr. Our purpose is to guide young men and young women, and help them get on the path to becoming kings and queens for the glory of God.

I am your instructor for this course and the author of the ESSENCE Magazine bestselling book “Letters to Young Black Men” and the national bestselling book “Letters to Young Black Women.” My wife, Meriqua Whyte, and my eldest daughter, Daniella Whyte, co-authored “Letters to Young Black Women” with me. My daughter (who has two bachelor’s degrees in psychology and religion and a master’s degree in human services counseling—executive leadership and a second master’s degree in developmental psychology) and her mother, developed the Study Guide. We are using Letters to Young Black Women and its study guide to guide you through this course. This course is for all young women, but especially for young black women and young women of color who oftentimes face disadvantages that others do not. The goal of this class is to help you operate from a position of strength and power based upon the Word of God so you can be victorious in life. My prayer is that this class will empower you to win against your enemies: the devil, sorry men, and even yourself.

Today, we will continue our study, “ON REMAINING A VIRGIN UNTIL YOU ARE MARRIED” (Letter Twenty-Five).

— First, Let’s Pray —

Allow me to begin with a quote from J. Budziszewski. He said: “According to research, the more hours a man and woman spend alone together, even if they begin with a firm intention of chastity, the further they tend to go and the more likely they are to lose control completely. Hearing this, most Christian young people have the good sense to see that couples who really want to remain chaste need to limit their time alone. That’s realism. Unfortunately, the more time they’ve been spending alone, the less obvious such realism will be to them. The solution is that they need to set their limits firmly at the beginning of their relationship, while their heads are still clear and realism is easier to achieve. …Listen, God invented sexual arousal. But for what purpose? To prepare your bodies for sex. Leading to sex is what sexual arousal is for. Don’t say, ‘We’ll do things that sexually arouse us, but we won’t let them lead to sex.’ That’s like turning on powerful rocket motors but saying, “Don’t lift off.” The solution? Avoid the things that arouse you! If sex is only for marriage, sexual arousal must be too.”

Now, please pull out your text and your digital study guide or follow along on the screen. First, I will read a portion of the corresponding letter from the book, Letters to Young Black Women. Then we will proceed with this lesson:

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Here are four reasons why you ought not to have sex before marriage:

1. It will cost you more than it will cost him. I know it’s not fair, but it is true. It’s kind of like the story of the chicken and the pig. The chicken came to the pig and said, “Let’s provide a good breakfast for Farmer John by giving him some good old bacon and eggs. You can provide the bacon, and I can provide the eggs.” The pig said, “That sounds good. However, yours is just a donation; mine is a complete sacrifice.” In this story, you, young lady, are the pig.

2. It will break your fellowship with God and steal your joy, peace, and moral authority. You don’t want that.

3. You can get pregnant. He will probably go on to marry somebody else, and go on with the rest of his life. You will have a constant reminder of your moral failure, and remember: the child is never illegitimate — the parents are. The child is a gift from God.

4. It can cause you untold heartache and pain throughout your life.

How to avoid having sex before marriage:

1. Never put yourself in a compromising position.

2. Never send the wrong signal to the opposite sex.

3. Make up your mind what you are going to do before the temptation comes, and as sure as I am black and my last name Whyte, the temptation is going to come.

4. Never travel or go places alone. Always go with your sisters, or your girlfriends — better yet, go with your big brother.

5. Stay with your parents until you get married, and obey the rules of their house. For example, in such a situation, Tyrone can’t stay until 11:00 at night, and you can’t stay at Tyrone’s house until 11:00 at night. Never disrespect your parents, no matter how old you are.

Fly Virgin,
Papa
P.T. (Power Thoughts):

“You are built not to shrink down to less but to blossom into more.” —Oprah Winfrey

“A life of peace, purity, and refinement leads to a calm and untroubled old age.” —Cicero

“It is well to think well; it is divine to act well.” —Horace Mann

“I married the first man I ever kissed.” —Barbara Bush

“Freedom is not the right to do as you please, but the liberty to do as you ought.” —Selected

BIBLE GEM: “What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.” —1 Corinthians 6:19 & 20

TALK TO GOD: Holy Father, I pray that You would help me to be the woman that You want me to be. Help me to remain a virgin and to abstain from all sexual activities before marriage. Thank You for Your love and help. In Jesus’ precious name. Amen.

BOOK: In Search of the Proverbs 31 Man, by Michelle McKinney Hammond

CHECK IT OUT: http://www.ceeceemichaela.com

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In his sermon “Biblical Principles for Finding a Spouse, Genesis 23-25”, Randy Smith said, “The Bible is clear that sexual intimacy is to be reserved exclusively between husband and wife. Within marriage it’s beautiful. Outside of marriage it’s destructive. The wrong question asked by dating couples is, ‘How close can we go to that line without sinning?’ A better question is, ‘How far can I flee from potential sin in fear of getting burned?’” Dear daughters, please do not allow mankind’s widespread perversion of God’s world to pull you away from the righteous belief and understanding of this fact: that since God made the world and everything in it including you as both a spiritual and sexual being, specifically including your hormones and the sexual impulses in your spirit and body, He knows what and when is the best use for sex and He has divine reason as for why. Just as you trust that the constructor of your car intrinsically knows more about it than you do, so you must trust that God as Supreme Creator has superior knowledge of your body and every aspect of your life —from the spiritual to sexual. Therefore, what He says (as outlined in the Bible, His manual for life on earth so graciously given to us) goes, whether you agree with it or not. As a christian believer, a daughter of the King, you should not be asking “how far can we go sexually without sinning” when in a relationship? This is how unbelievers, lost people who do not consider the love and commandments of their Heavenly Father, think.

As Richard and Sharon Phillips write in Holding Hands and Holding Hearts, “A typical mistake made by Christian singles is to ask, ‘How far can we go?’ The very question reveals a troubling attitude, and the one who asks it has already gone too far. But since it is the question that many really want to ask, this is an honest response to the Bible’s teaching: ‘Not very far at all.’ Physical, sexual interaction between a man and a woman is reserved for marriage. Too many Christians believe that so long as full-blown sexual intercourse is resisted, other forms of sexual interaction are acceptable. But such an attitude is far out of line with the Bible. …Far from inviting us to play around as much as possible and as close to the fire as we can without getting burned, [the Bible] makes it clear that a sincere Christian will cultivate the highest moral and sexual purity, as essential to his or her worship of God [1 Thes. 4:3-5; Eph. 5:3-5].” When you are visited by the temptation to engage in sexual activity with your boyfriend before marriage, consider the questions posed in Proverbs 6:27-28: “Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned?” Well, of course not. When you toy with sexual sin, you will suffer every time.

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In the next class, we will begin our study, “NOT GIVING IN: MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE by Joslyn Neblett.”

—LET’S PRAY—

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Now, like many of you, I grew up in a very religious and church-going family, and during that time, I often heard the phrase “Being Saved.” Now, much of what church people said “being saved” was back then especially, in my community, is wrong according to the Bible. I wrote an article about it titled “On ‘Being Saved’ in Black America” which is available for you to read free of charge on our website, gospellightsociety.com. Right now, I want to share with you very briefly what the Bible says “being saved” really is.

First, understand that you need to be saved because you are a sinner. Romans 3:23 says, “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.”

Second, understand that a horrible punishment — eternal Hell — awaits those who are not saved. In Matthew 25:41, Jesus Christ said that God will say to those who are not saved, “depart from me ye cursed into everlasting fire prepared for the devil and his angels.”

Third, realize that God loves you very much and wants to save you from Hell. John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” If you want to be saved from Hell and be guaranteed a home in Heaven, simply believe in Jesus Christ, that He died, was buried, and rose from the dead for your sins, and then call upon Him in prayer and ask Him to save your soul. And believe me, He will.

Romans 10:9-13 says, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” That is the most important decision you will ever make.

God bless you and keep you until we meet for our next class.

Class 81 of “The Ramp” to the Highway of Success course for young women

Welcome to Class 81 of “The Ramp” to the Highway of Success course for young women. I am Daniel Whyte III, president of Gospel Light Society, working in partnership with the Martin Luther King Senior Institute for Young Men & Young Women. The Institute aims to honor the legacy of Martin Luther King Sr., commonly referred to as “Daddy King”, whom God used to raise the great leader, Martin Luther King Jr. Our purpose is to guide young men and young women, and help them get on the path to becoming kings and queens for the glory of God.

I am your instructor for this course and the author of the ESSENCE Magazine bestselling book “Letters to Young Black Men” and the national bestselling book “Letters to Young Black Women.” My wife, Meriqua Whyte, and my eldest daughter, Daniella Whyte, co-authored “Letters to Young Black Women” with me. My daughter (who has two bachelor’s degrees in psychology and religion and a master’s degree in human services counseling—executive leadership and a second master’s degree in developmental psychology) and her mother, developed the Study Guide. We are using Letters to Young Black Women and its study guide to guide you through this course. This course is for all young women, but especially for young black women and young women of color who oftentimes face disadvantages that others do not. The goal of this class is to help you operate from a position of strength and power based upon the Word of God so you can be victorious in life. My prayer is that this class will empower you to win against your enemies: the devil, sorry men, and even yourself.

Today, we will begin our study, “ON REMAINING A VIRGIN UNTIL YOU ARE MARRIED” (Letter Twenty-Five).

— First, Let’s Pray —

Allow me to begin with a quote. It states: “A beautiful woman delights the eye; a wise woman, the understanding; a pure one, the soul.”

Now, please pull out your text and your digital study guide or follow along on the screen. First, I will read a portion of the corresponding letter from the book, Letters to Young Black Women. Then we will proceed with this lesson:

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Dear Daughters & YBW:

You cannot lose by remaining a virgin until you are happily married to that special someone. Virgins always WIN!

It is not fair, but in the minds of most men, when a young lady loses her virginity before marriage, she loses something very valuable. In their minds, her value goes down; but strangely, when a man loses his virginity, his stock goes up, not only in the minds of the fellows, but also in the minds of many women as well. This may not be fair, but oftentimes it is true.

Most men have real problems in their heads if their woman has been with another man sexually. You may call it insecurity, or whatever, but it is a reality. I believe it stems from the fact that God is a jealous God, and God made man in His image; thus man has some good jealousy in him. In my own case, I don’t know where it came from, but even though I was not a virgin, I knew I couldn’t marry a woman who was not a virgin. When God showed me I needed to get married, I literally traveled the world to find a Christian woman who was a virgin. Out of the nine women who I had dated over the course of two years, only one was able to say she was a virgin — Daughters, I married that woman, and she is your mother. And the proof of her virginity was on the sheets on our wedding night when we consummated our marriage. You can call that whatever you want; you can call it unfair, you can call it insecurity, you can call it out-of-control jealousy, but the truth of the matter is, like most men, I just did not want to have in my mind that what my wife is doing with me now, sexually, she had done with another man. Now today, most men will not have the guts to tell you what I just told you because it is not cool for a man to have jealousy for his wife. Even though it is not cool in our society today, any man who loves his wife, or wife to be, will be jealous over her. And you should know this, YBW, since, deep down, every woman wants her husband to have some jealousy for her as proof of his love, as long as it is not crazy jealousy.

As I indicated earlier, many men will not be as bold as I was, and actually ask the young woman if she is a virgin. Today that is not cool. But trust me, when he is thinking about marriage, that is at the forefront of his mind. Strangely, more than the woman, the man wants to know where you have been, who you have been with, and what you did. Now, if he does not love you and care for you, and he just wants to use you for sex, then he will not care whether you are a virgin or not. Remember, as I said earlier, most men today do not have the guts to ask a young lady what is really on his mind. But just because he is afraid to ask does not mean it is not on his mind. Remain a virgin until you are married, so that this will never be an issue with you and your future husband because this will indeed come up. If the young man does not have the guts to ask you before marriage, when the heat is on in the marriage, it is going to come up. While you and your husband are out at the mall or at the grocery store, he’s going to have a hard time dealing with meeting one of your old boyfriends with whom he knows you have had sex.

Sister, the world will tell you differently. It will tell you that it is okay to try other men out before you settle down. However, God’s Word is true and is the best way for you to go. Notice the following verses:

“But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.” —I Corinthians 7:28

“There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.” —I Corinthians 7:34

“Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.” —I Corinthians 6:18

“Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.” —I Corinthians 7:1-2

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In her book, Battlefield of the Mind, Joyce Meyer shares the following, “The mind is the leader or forerunner of all actions. Romans 5:8 makes it clear: ‘For those who are according to the flesh are controlled by it’s unholy desires set their minds on and pursue those things which gratify the flesh, but those who are according to the Spirit and are controlled by the desires of the Spirit set their minds on and seek those things which gratify the [Holy] Spirit.’ Our actions are a direct result of our thoughts. If we have a negative mind, we will have a negative life. If, on the other hand, we renew our mind according to God’s Word, we will, as Romans 12:2 promises, prove out in our experience “the good and acceptable and perfect will of God” for our lives. The mind is the battlefield. It is a vital necessity that we line up our thoughts with God’s thoughts. This is a process that will take time and study. Don’t ever give up, because little by little you are changing. The more you change your mind for the better, the more your life will also change for the better. When you begin to see God’s good plan for you in your thinking, you will begin to walk in it.”

Young ladies, this important matter of having a strong mind whose thoughts are aligned with God’s Word instead of dictated by the world touches every area of your life because your actions are the direct result of your thoughts. If you think and believe it is inconsequential to give yourself away before marriage by having sex, then you will do so. If you think and believe the opposite, then you will adhere to that conviction and refuse to do so. Dismiss what you may personally think about staying pure sexually until you are within the bonds of marriage, reject the ideas that the world, worldly family members and friends are putting in your head about the subject, and choose to adopt what scripture says.

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In the next class, we will continue our study, “ON REMAINING A VIRGIN UNTIL YOU ARE MARRIED.”

—LET’S PRAY—

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Now, like many of you, I grew up in a very religious and church-going family, and during that time, I often heard the phrase “Being Saved.” Now, much of what church people said “being saved” was back then especially, in my community, is wrong according to the Bible. I wrote an article about it titled “On ‘Being Saved’ in Black America” which is available for you to read free of charge on our website, gospellightsociety.com. Right now, I want to share with you very briefly what the Bible says “being saved” really is.

First, understand that you need to be saved because you are a sinner. Romans 3:23 says, “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.”

Second, understand that a horrible punishment — eternal Hell — awaits those who are not saved. In Matthew 25:41, Jesus Christ said that God will say to those who are not saved, “depart from me ye cursed into everlasting fire prepared for the devil and his angels.”

Third, realize that God loves you very much and wants to save you from Hell. John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” If you want to be saved from Hell and be guaranteed a home in Heaven, simply believe in Jesus Christ, that He died, was buried, and rose from the dead for your sins, and then call upon Him in prayer and ask Him to save your soul. And believe me, He will.

Romans 10:9-13 says, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” That is the most important decision you will ever make.

God bless you and keep you until we meet for our next class.

Class 80 of “The Ramp” to the Highway of Success course for young women

Welcome to Class 80 of “The Ramp” to the Highway of Success course for young women. I am Daniel Whyte III, president of Gospel Light Society, working in partnership with the Martin Luther King Senior Institute for Young Men & Young Women. The Institute aims to honor the legacy of Martin Luther King Sr., commonly referred to as “Daddy King”, whom God used to raise the great leader, Martin Luther King Jr. Our purpose is to guide young men and young women, and help them get on the path to becoming kings and queens for the glory of God.

I am your instructor for this course and the author of the ESSENCE Magazine bestselling book “Letters to Young Black Men” and the national bestselling book “Letters to Young Black Women.” My wife, Meriqua Whyte, and my eldest daughter, Daniella Whyte, co-authored “Letters to Young Black Women” with me. My daughter (who has two bachelor’s degrees in psychology and religion and a master’s degree in human services counseling—executive leadership and a second master’s degree in developmental psychology) and her mother, developed the Study Guide. We are using Letters to Young Black Women and its study guide to guide you through this course. This course is for all young women, but especially for young black women and young women of color who oftentimes face disadvantages that others do not. The goal of this class is to help you operate from a position of strength and power based upon the Word of God so you can be victorious in life. My prayer is that this class will empower you to win against your enemies: the devil, sorry men, and even yourself.

Today, we will continue our study, “ON NOT BEING A SILLY-MINDED WOMAN” (Letter Twenty-Four).

— First, Let’s Pray —

Allow me to begin with a quote from Joyce Meyer. She said: “Your mind can be a junkyard or a treasure chest, and you alone have the ability to choose what it will be.”

Now, please pull out your text and your digital study guide or follow along on the screen. First, I will read a portion of the corresponding letter from the book, Letters to Young Black Women. Then we will proceed with this lesson:

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Daughters and YBW, please forgive me for this rather long-winded letter. I just don’t want you to be a silly-minded woman; rather, I want you to be a strong, tough-minded woman, who makes things happen in her life, instead of letting things happen to her.

Be Strong,
Papa

P.T. (Power-Thoughts):
“I have learned over the years that when one’s mind is made up, this diminishes fear; knowing what must be done does away with fear.” —Rosa Parks

“In matters of style, swim with the current; in matters of principle, stand like a rock.” —Thomas Jefferson

BIBLE GEM: “Therefore, my beloved brethren, be ye stedfast, unmoveable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, forasmuch as ye know that your labour is not in vain in the Lord.” —I Corinthians 15:58

TALK TO GOD: Dear God, Please help me to be a strong-minded woman for Your glory, and help me not to fall for every wind of doctrine that may come along. In Jesus’ powerful name. Amen.

BOOK: Battlefield of the Mind: Winning the Battle in Your Mind, by Joyce Meyer

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As we wrap up this chapter’s portion of our study, let’s use Matthew Henry’s Commentary to take a closer look at II Timothy 3:6-7 which states, “For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts, Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.” Regarding this passage and its surrounding verses, Henry comments in part:

Men love to gratify their own lusts, more than to please God and do their duty…We abuse God’s gifts, if we make them the food and fuel of our lusts.

… God is to be loved above all; but a carnal mind, full of enmity against him, prefers any thing before him, especially carnal pleasure. A form of godliness is very different from the power; from such as are found to be hypocrites, real Christians must withdraw. Such persons have been found within the outward church, in every place, and at all times. There ever have been artful men, who, by pretences and flatteries, creep into the favour and confidence of those who are too easy of belief, ignorant, and fanciful. All must be ever learning to know the Lord; but these follow every new notion, yet never seek the truth as it is in Jesus.

…Self-love will make the times perilous. Who is there who does not love himself? But this is meant of an irregular sinful self-love. Men love their carnal selves better than their spiritual selves. Men love to gratify their own lusts, and make provision for them, more than to please God and do their duty. Instead of Christian charity, which takes care for the good of others, they will mind themselves only, and prefer their own gratification before the church’s edification…Observe, Self-love brings in a long train of sins and mischiefs. When men are lovers of themselves, no good can be expected from them, as all good may be expected from those who love God with all their hearts…

…And see what sort of people those were that they gained, and made proselytes of; they were such as were weak, silly women; and such as were wicked, laden with sins, and led away with divers lusts. A foolish head and a filthy heart make persons, especially women, an easy prey to seducers. He shows how far they were from coming to the knowledge of the truth, though they pretended to be ever learning. In one sense we must all be ever learning, that is, growing in knowledge, following on to know the Lord, pressing forward; but these were sceptics, giddy and unstable…

They attack those who are the least able to defend themselves, silly and wicked women. Seducers in all ages are much alike. Their characters are the same-namely, Men of corrupt minds, etc.; their conduct is much the same-they resist the truth…Those who resist the truth are guilty of folly, yea, of egregious folly; for…Great is the truth, and shall prevail.

Though the spirit of error may be let loose for a time, God has it in a chain. Satan can deceive the nations and the churches no further and no longer than God will permit him: Their folly shall be manifest, it shall appear that they are imposters, and every man shall abandon them.

Young ladies, please heed this scripture’s inherent warning and make sure you are the opposite of the “silly” women described therein. Sadly, this scenario plays out regularly in our world today: Why are the “churches” of so many fake preachers and false prophets made up primarily of women? Because they know silly-minded women are an easy prey. Strictly spiritually speaking, are you personally rooted and grounded in your faith in the power and Person of Jesus Christ? Or are you truly just caught up in following the cult of personality and charisma of some self-described prophet? When you attend church or hear a word from a “man of God”, do you check to see if the Holy Spirit in you agrees with the words coming out of his mouth? Are you even attuned to the Holy Spirit’s power of discernment? When a new, flashy pastor comes to town or gains popularity online or via TV, do you run to join his congregation just because he shares some new thing or eases your conscience by telling you what you want to hear? Do not allow yourself to be easily led astray, duped, deceived and used by false religious leaders only seeking to gratify their lusts and fleshly desires.

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In the next class, we will begin our study, “ON REMAINING A VIRGIN UNTIL YOU ARE MARRIED.”

—LET’S PRAY—

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Now, like many of you, I grew up in a very religious and church-going family, and during that time, I often heard the phrase “Being Saved.” Now, much of what church people said “being saved” was back then especially, in my community, is wrong according to the Bible. I wrote an article about it titled “On ‘Being Saved’ in Black America” which is available for you to read free of charge on our website, gospellightsociety.com. Right now, I want to share with you very briefly what the Bible says “being saved” really is.

First, understand that you need to be saved because you are a sinner. Romans 3:23 says, “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.”

Second, understand that a horrible punishment — eternal Hell — awaits those who are not saved. In Matthew 25:41, Jesus Christ said that God will say to those who are not saved, “depart from me ye cursed into everlasting fire prepared for the devil and his angels.”

Third, realize that God loves you very much and wants to save you from Hell. John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” If you want to be saved from Hell and be guaranteed a home in Heaven, simply believe in Jesus Christ, that He died, was buried, and rose from the dead for your sins, and then call upon Him in prayer and ask Him to save your soul. And believe me, He will.

Romans 10:9-13 says, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” That is the most important decision you will ever make.

God bless you and keep you until we meet for our next class.

Class 79 of “The Ramp” to the Highway of Success course for young women

Welcome to Class 79 of “The Ramp” to the Highway of Success course for young women. I am Daniel Whyte III, president of Gospel Light Society, working in partnership with the Martin Luther King Senior Institute for Young Men & Young Women. The Institute aims to honor the legacy of Martin Luther King Sr., commonly referred to as “Daddy King”, whom God used to raise the great leader, Martin Luther King Jr. Our purpose is to guide young men and young women, and help them get on the path to becoming kings and queens for the glory of God.

I am your instructor for this course and the author of the ESSENCE Magazine bestselling book “Letters to Young Black Men” and the national bestselling book “Letters to Young Black Women.” My wife, Meriqua Whyte, and my eldest daughter, Daniella Whyte, co-authored “Letters to Young Black Women” with me. My daughter (who has two bachelor’s degrees in psychology and religion and a master’s degree in human services counseling—executive leadership and a second master’s degree in developmental psychology) and her mother, developed the Study Guide. We are using Letters to Young Black Women and its study guide to guide you through this course. This course is for all young women, but especially for young black women and young women of color who oftentimes face disadvantages that others do not. The goal of this class is to help you operate from a position of strength and power based upon the Word of God so you can be victorious in life. My prayer is that this class will empower you to win against your enemies: the devil, sorry men, and even yourself.

Today, we will continue our study, “ON NOT BEING A SILLY-MINDED WOMAN” (Letter Twenty-Four).

— First, Let’s Pray —

Allow me to begin with a quote from Lysa TerKeurst. She said: “Wise women tuck Godly wisdom into the words they speak and even more into the words they choose not to speak.”

Now, please pull out your text and your digital study guide or follow along on the screen. First, I will read a portion of the corresponding letter from the book, Letters to Young Black Women. Then we will proceed with this lesson:

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In closing, I should mention the benefits of being a strong, toughminded woman, for they are numerous:

1. You can laugh at the devil because he can’t touch you.

2. You can laugh at dawggish men who mean you no good. No man will be able to tell his buddies that he had you, and that you ain’t about nothing.

3. You can get many wonderful things accomplished with your life before the age of twenty-four: things like getting your doctorate degree, starting a business, writing your first novel or non-fiction book, buying your first house, buying the car of your dreams, reading all of the classics, and the list could go on and on.

4. You can be a blessing to your parents instead of a burden.

5. You can save a whole lot of time and money.

6. You can travel around the world on missionary trips.

7. Along with your other degree, you can get a seminary degree to serve more effectively in your church.

8. You will never get hurt romantically by getting tied up with a man who God did not choose to be your husband in the first place. As you know, this can take up to three years, and sometimes even a lifetime to get over. What a colossal waste of valuable time.

9. You can avoid many aggravating day-to-day problems and troubles by being organized and having all your paperwork in order, including proof of insurance.

10. You can avoid the devastating consequences of lying. Sister, if people cannot trust you and your word, your life is doomed. The sad thing about it is that you won’t even know it because your employers and so-called friends won’t have the guts to check you on your lying. They will just silently take note of it, tell others about it, and never trust you again.

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6. Along with goals, do you have a plan to reach those goals as well as a plan for day-to-day life? As one popular quote states, “The dream is free but the hustle is sold separately.” Do you keep lists of what you have accomplished and of what you need to accomplish to move forward in life? Or do you wake up only to go through each precious day directionless and end each day empty-handed?
7. Do you seek out and heed godly advice and sound counsel from people who are older, more knowledgeable and more successful than you according to scriptural standards? Do you surround yourself with these types of people and actually listen to what they have to say or are you always the loudest in the room, your ears blocked to anyone outside of yourself? Proverbs 11:14 says, “Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety.” Above all, do you ask the Lord for wisdom or are you determined to do it your own way and make a mess of things?
8. Are you a liar? Have you complicated your life with drama and scandal due to deceit and manipulation or are you free from bondage in Christ living an upright life?
9. How is your mind and your mental state? Are you empty-headed, constantly feeding on social media gossip, trashy music, mystic self-help books and pointless tv shows? Or is your mind ever expanding, being filled with beneficial knowledge and other forms of positive content, bearing thoughts that are good and beautiful (Philippians 4:8)? How much of your mind is filled with meditations on scripture? Are you winning the battle of your mind by “bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ” (2 Corinthians 10:5)?
10. Are you building up or tearing down your family and friends with your words and deeds? Denzel Washington said, “a wise woman knows the importance of speaking life into her man. If you love him: believe in him, encourage him and be his peace.” Even if you are not married, do those who spend the most time around you feel uplifted or low when they leave your presence?

Young ladies, time is precious. It is our most valuable commodity. You never know how much of it you have left and once it is gone it cannot be regained. Just like your mind, time is a powerful thing to waste. If you do not use it and fill it as you should, you will come to the end of your life full of regrets. Let me challenge you to adopt President Theodore Roosevelt’s approach to life: “Get action;” he stated, “do things; be sane [not silly-minded]; don’t fritter away your time; create; act; take a place wherever you are and be somebody; get action.”

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In the next class, we will continue our study, “ON NOT BEING A SILLY-MINDED WOMAN.”

—LET’S PRAY—

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Now, like many of you, I grew up in a very religious and church-going family, and during that time, I often heard the phrase “Being Saved.” Now, much of what church people said “being saved” was back then especially, in my community, is wrong according to the Bible. I wrote an article about it titled “On ‘Being Saved’ in Black America” which is available for you to read free of charge on our website, gospellightsociety.com. Right now, I want to share with you very briefly what the Bible says “being saved” really is.

First, understand that you need to be saved because you are a sinner. Romans 3:23 says, “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.”

Second, understand that a horrible punishment — eternal Hell — awaits those who are not saved. In Matthew 25:41, Jesus Christ said that God will say to those who are not saved, “depart from me ye cursed into everlasting fire prepared for the devil and his angels.”

Third, realize that God loves you very much and wants to save you from Hell. John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” If you want to be saved from Hell and be guaranteed a home in Heaven, simply believe in Jesus Christ, that He died, was buried, and rose from the dead for your sins, and then call upon Him in prayer and ask Him to save your soul. And believe me, He will.

Romans 10:9-13 says, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” That is the most important decision you will ever make.

God bless you and keep you until we meet for our next class.